Momma Told Me: I'm Enough- And So Are You! Make Your Mirror Magical Today

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Saturday, July 5, 2014

I'm Enough- And So Are You! Make Your Mirror Magical Today

@TheMrsBand inspires women to see the beauty in their reflection- no magic mirror required!
Momma Told Me: Magic mirrors aren't real.

Kids can be cruel. But have you ever considered that the child inside you can be a bully as well?

When we're young we're most impressionable, and the filters that take decades to develop throughout our lives are often not yet in place. We blurt things out without a second thought, and make observations that can be painfully blunt. We close our eyes and we dream of talking unicorns and becoming perfect dancing ballerinas. And each and every young girl grows into a beautiful woman that retains that childlike spirit inside them. But how much of our fantastic dreams of yesterday, and unrealistic perceptions of reality impact the adult eyes we view ourselves with? Does the child inside you question the reflection of the woman on the other side?
@Th@TheMrsBand inspires women to see the beauty in their reflection- no magic mirror required!eMrsBand inspires women to see the beauty in their reflection- no magic mirror required!
Don't get me wrong, having ambition is great. However, as strong modern women, we can often get lost in those goals and dreams and turn them into negatives, talking down to ourselves without even knowing it. And with all the negativity built into the world around us, it's hard not to get caught up in the perceptions of success and beauty. I recently realized I have been doing a great disservice to the inner me. There were times when we couldn't even make eye contact.

You see, I experience great anxiety in large groups; especially those of my peers. See, that's a big mistake of mentality in that sentence, alone- we are ALL peers. Have you ever heard of  'I am woman, hear me roar?' Grouping ourselves into brackets of lifestyles or success only helps feed the critic inside us all. Realizing that our peers are made up of over 3.4 billion really help cut down on the expectations we hold to ourselves. In fact, I challenge you to eliminate ALL expectations. You are uniquely you, there has never been, and never will be another. Understanding and accepting this then logically states that you are the best you that will ever be.
@TheMrsBand inspires women to see the beauty in their reflection- no magic mirror required!
But back to the story- I recently attended a very large conference with over 4k women (and a few curious men,) and found myself so full of anxiety on the first day I almost didn't leave my hotel room. I changed my clothes at least 5 times, and walked with my eyes downward through the convention center. Every step I took I judged myself even more. My hair wasn't done as nice as that woman, my shoes weren't right for my skirt, my blog wasn't big enough to compete with the celebrities before me. Isn't it funny that every layer we put over our lives, leads us to judge ourselves even more? But who we are is not the car we drive, the clothes we parade ourselves in, or the proucts we choose to buy.

When we strip ourselves down to that naked vulnerability we all fear so much, it's ironically empowering. When we stare into that mirror and make eye contact with ourselves we can at last have that long overdue conversation with ourselves. Suddenly, it becomes easier to see the beauty inside, the us that is truly there. And, when you stop taking the time to anticipate the unsaid words of judgement around you, your inner child is more open to the praise and celebration that is right in front of it.
@TheMrsBand inspires women to see the beauty in their reflection- no magic mirror required!
No, we don't have enchanted mirrors, a-la-fairytales, to reassure us of our beauty- but I've got a secret- any mirror can be magical when your reflection is staring back at you. So today, take the time to close the door, and spend some time with just you and yourself. Tell that inner child about all the amazing things you have accomplished, let all the amazing confirmation from your family and friends be that echo of support and affirmation. Look into those eyes staring back at you, they are strong, they are one of a kind. You are the only you, and therefor the best damn you that there will ever be! You are amazing, and strong, and beautiful- you are enough.

What Daughter Says: The magic isn't in the mirror, it's in you- change the voice you hear today!






Nee a little more inspiration? Check out the real life message of The Mrs band, and their mirror experiment!

12 comments:

  1. Those stickers were interesting, we got them as well. What hotel were you at? I wanted to meet up with you but not sure if you got my message or not :).

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  2. More power to you. I must admit that my parents generally sucked as parents but they did instill in me a certain confidence in my brain. I know I am capable. As I have aged I care less about outer appearance and just go with what is comfortable.

    This is a very important message. Thank you for sharing it so bravely. If we would all stop concentrating on looks and an impossible ideal we would be far better off. So would the children who want to achieve that impossible image being sold to them every day

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  3. This message is so very important to share in a world that is so easy to shame people. Thank you for being so brave to share the way you did. Never be afraid to be who you are!!

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  4. I am so inspired by this campaign. You have joined in to send such a positive message. I want to write a post on this too. Such an important message.

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  5. I too am very uncomfortable in large groups and definitely have an inner bully. This is a beautiful post, and I thank you for being a strong, self-respecting role model.

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  6. I love those stickers, great message

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  7. You are beautiful and so inspirational for putting together this post complete with badass pictures of your beautiful self :)

    This campaign definitely inspires me and I'm sure a lot more people!

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  8. Wow Jenna, You are so brave for posing in such a casual way. And you know what, you are beautiful and enough. I wish you had the confidence that I see in you, you are awesome and you have so many qualities I want emulate. Seems like you are on the right road.

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  9. I am so with you - I feel very subconscious going to the conferences, but since I know you, I know how totally awesome you are

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  10. What an incredible post! We are our own worse critics and we all need to remember that we are strong, beautiful women. I know that I tend to be guilty of thinking myself not good enough to face a crowd myself.

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  11. I absolutely loved my experience with The Mirror at BlogHer. I have been promoting this song, as well! This message is important to all females--we often judge ourselves much more harshly than anyone else judges us. As the song says, "Screw the magazines and the skinny jeans!"

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  12. I think you're very cute...True story...Mean that

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